I asked Ee questions on her blog, so time I do my part and post this to my blog:
1. Ask me 3 questions. Any 3, no matter how personal, private or random.
2. I have to answer them honestly. I have to answer them all.
3. In turn, you post this message in your own blog or journal and you have to answer the questions that are asked of you.
I reserve the right to limit the personally identifying information that I post in my responses. And, as stated on another blog, "I'm not going to tell any stories that could defame or embarass anyone but myself. I'll happily tell y'all things about my own shortcomings, habits, or idiosyncrasies, but others' are their own...and theirs to tell."
Wednesday, October 05, 2005
3 Questions
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These are just a few light questions I was wondering what you'd say; because I don't know you, your heart off your actions thus far in your life well enough to know your (hopefully truthful, even to yourself) answers:
1) Which would you rather?: To be loved by ALL people and knowing you are off track, wrong, sinning in the eyes of God OR to be hated by the people dearest to you, loose the attention and care of loved ones, but KNOW in your depth that you are right in the eyes of God?
2) Which would you rather?: There's a man who has the "personality type", the relating style of using people and then growing distant from, even mean to them when his needs are met, controlling, untrustworthy, speaks he believes in one thing, but lives his life another, and doesn't want to work at the hard parts of life and love, for he has a way of getting out of trouble. HOWEVER, don't go postal on me :D, he has wonderful qualities FAR TOO long to list here, and is a guy that really connects with you and holds your interested. NOW, the "?": You could be the best friend of this guy you care about- his closest and most trusted ear, his shoulder for tears and burdens, share in similar interest and secrets, know him better then anyone, BUT NEVER married to him for he belongs to another (even if he's not loyal to that!) OR be the one married to this man who you adore everything about so much to live with and deal with his hurtful ways, but he's distant from you, for you're not his best friend? You can be only married or best friend, not both.
3) Which would you rather?: To BE loved, swept off your feet, center of attention, and pursued but unable to truly love and give your best back to that person, unable to love them for their greater good in God OR TO love someone, pour all of yourself out, even in suffering at times, to someone who is unable or unwilling to give you respect, attention, and desire back, for they don't have a heart to care about your greater good in God?
1. Skipping the argument that no person can please “ALL people”…..Of course, the “right” answer is to be right with God, no matter the worldly cost. For myself, I am surrounded in my family and friends by so many Christians that I respect, I find it nigh impossible to imagine a situation where I would lose their support, especially as long as I was following God. On the other hand, because I respect these Christians and because I hate to disappoint people, I could imagine situations where I would heed their advice when others might not see the rightness of it. Ultimately, I want to do what is right in the eyes of God, but as a sinful human, I may not be very good at that in every situation.
2. I believe it was parents that taught me long ago (by practice, if not in words), that marriage works best when it is built on friendship, not just attraction and feelings, so by far, I would say “both.” Since you’ve eliminated that choice, I’m reminded that I’ve counted several different guys as among my close friends for most of my life, some of them even as best friends. In some cases, there has been opportunity to pursue the relationship on a deeper level, but it had never happened, prior to now. So, perhaps in a sense, I’ve already made this decision. I’ve seen my parents’ and grandparents’ marriages and I want my marriage to be as happy and lasting as theirs. If I had reason to believe I couldn’t have that type of marriage with someone,...well, I don’t plan on accepting less. Of course, marriage is a life-long commitment, so I expect to stick with it, once I’ve made that decision.
3. I’m not sure I entirely understand what you are asking. Would I rather be on the receiving or giving end of unrequited love? Obviously, to be on the receiving end can be awkward and flattering. (I like to avoid awkward anytime I can, but as I tend to get self-conscious anytime I’m the focus of attention and almost immediately feel awkward, I can’t avoid it most of the time.) To be on the giving end requires a lot of servicing and self-sacrifice. (With my personality, I’m quick to try to be of service to others, but I do like a little appreciation. Without the appreciation, my attention tends to wander to other ministry/service opportunities.) I guess what I’m reasoning out is that I could see myself ending up in the first type of relationship much easier than the second. But obviously, as a long-term relationship, neither would be truly lasting.
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